Time for a touchy subject.
This post will very much be opinionated, and though I am genuinely open-minded I do not intend for this post to offend anyone. This is my blog, these are my opinions, and I don't expect you to agree but I do ask for you all to be respectful.
I have always been proud of being a part of my high school. (I am purposely leaving out names.) It is an accepting atmosphere that promotes equality despite race, sexual orientation, beliefs, and disabilities.
Just recently there has been a ginormous controversy regarding the transgender and non binary gender students at my school. Some felt discriminated when voting for the traditional "Prom King and Queen" for our Senior prom. Some were disappointed to find that their names were not placed in the gender category they identified with on the voting ballot.
When the issue was brought to administration, they needed to take the time to consider the big picture. It is a state law that there should be no discrimination regarding gender issues in school systems. My school did not want to be faced with a lawsuit. My school changed the traditional prom idea so that nobody would face discrimination.
We re-voted for prom court candidates. This time on the ballot there was no longer a males & females section. All names were listed in alphabetical order despite the person's gender. We are no longer having a King and Queen. Instead, there will be a prom court as before, with 2 winners that could be anyone rightfully deserving of it by votes, regardless of gender.
There has been major controversy with those who argue that the traditional prom titles should be kept in place, and there should be a King and a Queen. There are also those who are pleased with the change.
In many ways this is creating a large separation between the students. It seems as though many are walking on egg shells and no matter what you say to express your opinion, there will always be someone who will be offended. These are social issues that are testing the amendment of freedom of speech.
It is an absolute shame how this is tearing us apart.
I have mixed feelings, and agree with parts of different sides.
In MY opinion, prom is overrated anyways. I am not poo-pooing on the idea of prom all together, but I for sure believe equality and acceptance are much more important than who is King and Queen.
In all honesty, if we did have a say in the turnout of the prom court situation, I would have preferred to keep it as it has always been. HOWEVER, now that the decision has been made I wouldn't fight it one bit. I believe though it is a change, we all should just go with the flow, realize prom isn't the most important thing in the world, prom will be what you make of it, and something good could come of this change.
This also is a tricky subject because even though there will no longer be discrimination by gender, there will still be a popularity contest with people being left out no matter what. Now that is not exactly grasping the goal of equality.
I try very much to avoid my political opinions on my blog, but I will definitely say I am a very open-minded person, I consider myself a liberal, and I am very accepting of the differences in people and their backgrounds. I am young as well, and I find that the younger generation is far more accepting of these changes than the older generations.
It very much bothers me when i hear adults complain about all of the "Gay" "Lesbian" "Transgender- talk." As if they are a separate part of society. They say they don't judge them, yet they become annoyed when talking about their social issues, or seeing them presented on television.
I find there is a difference between being closed-minded, and being straight up ignorant, and racist. I have seen comments from adults on social media talking about my school:
"first they get foreign exchange students, now this, i guess i will have to see if i want my kids to attend there when they're older. Not like when i was there."
People are not open to change. There is a difference between not being open to change, and being disrespectful when change does occur.
I have always been proud of the fact that my school is so diverse.
People are people. Regardless of sexual identity. The world needs to open up their hearts more and let people in. It really isn't that hard to be accepting. It isn't really that hard to be a nice person. You may find it takes more effort to complain, to judge, to beg for change, and to beg for things to stay the same.
Through the years, things will always evolve. Years and years ago racism was the biggest issue. There were blacks and whites only water fountains/bathrooms. Blacks only or whites only proms. Do you think everyone was accepting of that change at first? Today, racism is still existent but much less of an issue. More people are grasping that skin color does not change a person and nobody should face discrimination because of their skin color. Why should sexual orientation be any different?
If more schools made changes to ensure student equality, there could be less bullying, less suicides, less mental health struggles, more acceptance over time.
A change that involves bringing people together is a change I will support.
As for the changes among the prom tradition, prom will be what you make of it. Complaining and making ignorant comments do not resemble the school itself, or the transgender students, it only is a representation of you.
A Boston social work student, using writing for healing. Sharing the peaks and valleys of an empath's mental health journey.