We are all so quick to give advice to others when they open up about the tough stuff.
People don't always take advice very well when they see things from only one point of view.
From experience, when it comes to mental health, do not give advice unless someone asks you for advice.
Don't pretend you understand.
simply be there for support.
"I'm here for you."
"I'm sorry you are going through such a difficult time."
"I'm not leaving."
"I care about you."
"You are so important to me."
Those words can go a long way.
It's hard to know what to say when someone is going through a tough time.
Instead of risking the wrong words, at an attempt to just say something, turn to confirmation of your support first.
Congrats on starting a blog! I remember when I began (not too long ago) and I was not sure how to begin, what to write about, or if I was doing this whole "blogging" thing correctly.
As for your question, I have more than one answer because it really depends.. but I think that's a good thing. There should be more than one way to go about a blog post. Every blog is different!
Everybody works differently. Some people prefer to plan everything out separately, beginning to end before they even begin to type it all out.
For me, it all starts with an idea. I rarely prepare for it, I just open a post and go for it.
To be honest, sometimes I have no idea where my posts are going until I'm halfway through them and then more ideas kick in.
In that way, a tip from me to you would be:
I personally, tap into my own thoughts and use storytelling as a part of my writing style. The process, for me, tends to be a step-by-step "story" of.."what happens, next, then, questioning, reasoning, insight."
My blog process, is me..actually processing haha.
I have gotten stuck many times and struggled to complete a post not knowing where I am going with it. It happens.
When I finish a post I reread it and make any necessary edits. I recommend rereading more than once. I don't always do that and then I find embarrassing errors later on to fix after it has already been posted..
but again, it happens.
One last thing:
Write for you, before you write for someone else. Even if it truly is for someone else.
The times I struggle to complete a post or have no idea where to begin, are not so much for me. I am already thinking about the outcome. When I tune the world out and type as if I am the only one who will ever read it, the ideas flow, the process goes smoothly, and I can confirm it is "my voice" before I allow others to tap into it.
Whether I blog privately for myself, or for public readers, I try to push myself to not try so hard, and blog how I would write if I thought nobody would ever read it.
It is a great tip when building confidence into the blogging world.
There is no such thing as a wrong process. This is mine. I wish you the best of luck and I am here if you have any more questions!
A Boston social work student, using writing for healing. Sharing the peaks and valleys of an empath's mental health journey.