Congrats on starting a blog! I remember when I began (not too long ago) and I was not sure how to begin, what to write about, or if I was doing this whole "blogging" thing correctly.
As for your question, I have more than one answer because it really depends.. but I think that's a good thing. There should be more than one way to go about a blog post. Every blog is different!
Everybody works differently. Some people prefer to plan everything out separately, beginning to end before they even begin to type it all out.
For me, it all starts with an idea. I rarely prepare for it, I just open a post and go for it.
To be honest, sometimes I have no idea where my posts are going until I'm halfway through them and then more ideas kick in.
In that way, a tip from me to you would be:
I personally, tap into my own thoughts and use storytelling as a part of my writing style. The process, for me, tends to be a step-by-step "story" of.."what happens, next, then, questioning, reasoning, insight."
My blog process, is me..actually processing haha.
I have gotten stuck many times and struggled to complete a post not knowing where I am going with it. It happens.
When I finish a post I reread it and make any necessary edits. I recommend rereading more than once. I don't always do that and then I find embarrassing errors later on to fix after it has already been posted..
but again, it happens.
One last thing:
Write for you, before you write for someone else. Even if it truly is for someone else.
The times I struggle to complete a post or have no idea where to begin, are not so much for me. I am already thinking about the outcome. When I tune the world out and type as if I am the only one who will ever read it, the ideas flow, the process goes smoothly, and I can confirm it is "my voice" before I allow others to tap into it.
Whether I blog privately for myself, or for public readers, I try to push myself to not try so hard, and blog how I would write if I thought nobody would ever read it.
It is a great tip when building confidence into the blogging world.
There is no such thing as a wrong process. This is mine. I wish you the best of luck and I am here if you have any more questions!
Here's a redirection to my newest blog segment!
The "Ask Haley" column:
Please participate, spread the word, and try this with me!
This is it, starting today this is my last week..
my very last 7 days..
before my journey begins.
At this point for me, all of the questions have been creeping in.
Are you excited?
Are you nervous?
Are you all packed?
Are you sure you aren't nervous?
To be honest, I have absolutely no idea what to feel.
"This is a big change in your life."
Yes, this is a big change. But why does change always have to be expected as something that makes you nervous? Life itself is change.
When people ask me why I am not freaking out at this point, I really have more than one answer that I don't always admit.
These past 2-3 years have been nothing but change. My parent's who I always expected would be together forever, got a divorce. My Papa, who I expected was invincible through any illness, passed away. We moved out of my home that I had lived in for 16 years, into a new home with my mom's boyfriend and his two kids. I was now sharing a room with a 13 year old, and had 5 cats, and 2 big dogs.
At this point, I figure that things change so quickly in life, and there is absolutely no time to stop and panic and wish for things to stay the same. They rarely do.
Am I nervous? I am nervous as usual for the "what-ifs" and the anticipation of what to expect. All I can do is just appreciate where I am at now, and just go with the flow to see where it takes me.
When I was younger I expected moving into college would be a super sad day. I pictured myself biting my lip and holding back tears when I said a final goodbye to my mother.
I need to get that mindset out of my head by now. I am almost convincing myself that I am supposed to do that.
I have been looking forward to college since I was a 6th grader and my mom would not allow me to go to a sleep away camp.
These past years, I have been moved around, yet left feeling trapped.
I am so close. I can feel the freedom coming and I can not wait to see what I can do with it.
I need to take a step back though..
I still have 1 more week.
I am filling up my final "schedule" and trying to see as many friends as I can.
I don't think my "calm" feeling is that I am not nervous.
Though, I do believe it is the feeling I am ready.
I am ready for more change.
My therapist had told me (suggested) to try and motivate myself to do yoga again.
Well, I'm on a yoga mat.
I'm blogging and eating popcorn on it- but I think that's close enough.
I spent last night at my cousin Kristy's apartment. I usually see her once a year at either Thanksgiving or Easter. When we do hangout, it is surrounded by all of the cousins, so I have never have had 1:1 time with her.
So when she invited me to stay over at her apartment I was stoked. I managed to push my intense anxieties aside and do something for myself that would make me feel accomplished. I drove almost 2 hours to see her. When I parked at her apartment's lot I felt relief and allowed myself to breathe. Highways have been a difficulty for me since my accident- but I did it!! Each time I prove to myself that I can do it, the easier it becomes.
I feel like we both learned a lot about each other and truly got to know each other from my stay.
She talked about some of her anxiety struggles at times by saying, "I'm worried about something that HASN'T EVEN HAPPENED YET; like shut the fuck up, Kristy!" I laughed in agreement. It was almost reassuring to see that my 27 year old cousin has the same troubles as me when getting wrapped up in irrational thoughts.
From time spent with her, and lots of catching up I had more than just one realization. I thought about how poor my confidence is (I already knew that) but I also realized that when I think so highly about someone, I forget they are human too. I am a guilty typical girl who wants what she doesn't have. I truly try to break that habit but it is something that will take work to overcome. My cousin that I admire so much, and is so beautiful inside and out, made me feel so safe with being with her. I was safe in my own skin. Things just went perfectly where we both knew no matter our distance, we'll always turn to each other for support.
She says she looks up to me? Whaat? I sure know that I look up to her.
There is something beautiful, sad, and powerful all in one. That is, being able to see the beauty and worth in another person when they are unable to see it for themselves.
And I think we all have had that feeling.
I decided to break up my trip home by traveling halfway and spending the night at my other cousins' house who I always rarely see. I am so excited to see them.
Kristy had said something else today that really had me thinking. The gist of it was that friends will come and go, but family will always be there for you and truly love you for you. You need to learn how to love yourself and pick yourself up, because the truth is- you are all you have.
I can pinpoint names of the people who just make me feel so giddy inside. I count a small amount of people. The people who just tend to excite me and make me happy where I could cry, a little more than the rest. My cousins are in that group. I love them all. If I named them all on here it would be very long because I have a huge family, but I love that.
With cousins that are close, you are built in best friends. You have a sibling connection, but it's a friendship. No matter the distance, cousins will always be there for support.
I am just grateful for my family today. Grateful for Kristy, and grateful and hella proud that I have had safe travels these past few days. Man, I don't get out much..but when I do, It sure feels amazing to say
"I did it."
I just adore being awake at this hour, especially after I climbed in bed exhausted at 7pm.
One post. Just one; and then I shall try to sleep again. If you haven't noticed, I updated my site. To the right of the page, the newest feature I am most happy about, is the search bar. It is very useful when looking for specific past posts without spending too much time scrolling and clicking on every category.
Just in case you didn't realize this about me, I wanted to provide some reassurance. I love to post my favorite inspirational quotes as motivators to myself and others. I realize that in my blog entries I tend to preach some excellent realization I had or that I am feeling strong with how far I've come. Yes, I have amazing days and amazing moments where I am so happy I have my blog to share them with others. But, I don't want you to get confused with the big picture.
In many ways it is my anxiety speaking, but I have my own concerns that I will seem like a "fake." How I can share these inspirational messages one day, and be struggling to listen to the same message the next day..
I'm human too. In many ways I've conquered my illnesses, but in many ways they will always be a piece of me that I will have to work on. Like any other person, I have good and bad days.
Sometimes I am on top of the world, but sometimes I find myself struggling again and I need support just like anyone else. I want my site to be real. I don't want it to be only "this is what you need to do's" and making this all seem easy. It sure isn't easy, but it is possible. I want to be able to be truthful on my bad days because they do exist, and what matters is what I do to get through them. I am in the learning process here. :-)
Sometimes I feel the need to step away from my blog for a bit because seeing it makes me doubt myself.
Sometimes I need to remind myself of all the things I am living for, instead of focusing on the things I want to escape.
Sometimes I logically know that things will be okay no matter what, but I still believe in the evil "what-ifs" that cross my mind.
I may fall out of place for a bit, but it is about how I get back up that matters.
To those of you struggling every day with the challenges that your mental health can bring, please know you are not alone. I am in this struggle, and I am in this fight- with you.
Now time for bed..
Ok folks, to start I wanted to update you that as of this morning I have been accepted into the Bridge program at my college and will now be leaving 2 weeks earlier !!
Time is going by too fast.
How am I holding up with all of this change?
Weirdly. I would say my mood is "Bob Marley chill", with a burst of anxious what-ifs that eventually show up like a bird hitting a windshield.
But mostly "Bob Marley chill" which is good I guess considering I'm throwing my adolescence at the wind.
So there is a picture I found on the lovely Pinterest this morning. I posted it on my Instagram account and shared it to the blog social media accounts as a #mondaymotivation tag.
It's strange how some things just sound so simple, yet we don't use them.
Of course, I have control over how my day goes (most of the time), I know what makes me happy; So why am I not designing my days to be the best for me?
On my Instagram account I mentioned I would create my own list today (instead of just preaching it to you all.) To make sure I get it done, I am going to do it right here, right now, on the blog!
In my previous posts I wrote a long list of things that make me happy.
I'm sure I can add more now, but I wanted to use a pre-made list as an example.
My average (summer) day is really not that exciting.
I almost don't even want to share my daily list because it is really that uninteresting. BUT, let's make it interesting !
I saved everything from my "happy list" that can be incorporated into my day, any day no matter where I am.
Ok, so clearly I'm easy to please. These may not be "bucket list ideas of extreme happiness" but they are important things to me that make me happy, and a simple and beneficial task would be making sure they fit in with my daily routine.
I did my part :-)
Now it's your turn! What makes YOU happy? How do you want YOUR days to look?
A Boston social work student, using writing for healing. Sharing the peaks and valleys of an empath's mental health journey.